Tuesday, 29 January 2013

Sleep...

Before my first daughter was born 3.5 years ago, I read all the books.  All the books about babies, insisting that they will sleep through the night by one year old.  Ha!  3.5 years later and she has decided that she'll wake up at night and walk around the house...before climbing in bed with my very exhausted husband and me.  And forget about the 1.5 year old.  She still wakes up twice per night and will not go back to sleep without having a bottle.

Anyone else there with me?


But I've been poking around the internet a bit recently and it seems as though I'm not alone.  So many mothers breast feed toddlers throughout the night, so many parents co-sleep with their older children.  Right now my little one is growing a mouth full of teeth, is it fair for me to expect her to sleep with all that pain?

Peeking out the bedroom window when she should have been napping.  (Her crib is no longer near the window)

Someday they have to learn to sleep through the night, right?  Someday they'll be putting themselves to bed at night and someday they definitely won't want to share a bed with me.  I guess I'll just wait for that day and cherish the sleep and loving in the middle of the night that we do get now!

PS.  I would love to hear any sleep deprived stories you may have.
PPS...just so you know I'm not interested in crying it out.  

8 comments:

  1. both of mine woke up a lot. We tried the crying it out on the first one and it was brutal and I'm not sure it was successful. My husband would fetch the child and I would place them back. My suggestion would be to be consistent with bedtime, wake time and nap times. That would work for us. (both of mine gave up naps by 2 1/2 years!!!) So bed time was 7 p.m. as in lights out. We started their routine around 6:30 p.m. I think they woke around 6-7 am. Good luck!!!!! I think I value my sleep now :)

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    1. Fortunately mine haven't given up nap times. And when they don't nap (which is rare) it definitely messes up night time sleep. Thanks for your input!

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  2. Ah yes, with you there! My boy is now 2 years 10 months and wakes once in the night. He went down to 1 waking a night maybe 6 months or so ago, we slowly reduced the amount of milk in his second bottle until he stopped bothering to wake for it, but did it slowly so it didn't bother him. Unfortunately the one waking at the moment occasionally is him having milk and then going back to sleep (usually in my bed), but more often than not is him having milk, then being awake for the next 3 hours (at least). He doesn't play quietly though, he throws himself around the bed, jumps on me, steals my pillow, drags the duvet off me so I'm freezing... My husband normally goes to sleep in my toddlers bed at this point so he is rested enough for work! With all this sleep disturbance both me and my toddler were sleeping until 11am from tiredness. What we are doing now though is waking up the same time every morning (currently 9am to break it in gently, more for me than him!) so that he is more tired when he wakes in the night, in the hope he goes back to sleep. It's working maybe 2 out of 3 nights at the moment, I miss the nights where he used to just crawl into bed with me without waking me, go back to sleep and my husband would tell me he was cuddled into me in the morning! Sleep deprivation is hard!

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    1. I can't imagine needing to sleep so late from being up all night. Would not like that one bit! It seems as though it's a bit better around here since illness and teething are getting better....

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  3. You asked for sleep deprived stories...mine might scare off moms-to-be. My oldest didn't sleep through the night until he was over 3.5 years old. Way over. When he was little, he had a hard time putting on weight and my doctor told me to nurse him as often as he wanted. For several months, this was every hour on the hour through the night. He had an internal alarm clock it seems. By the time he was about 6 months or so, he would wake up after 15 minutes of nap, ready and raring to go. He had 2 of these naps a day and still didn't sleep through the night. If we left him in the crib too long to cry it out, he would throw up in the bed. He could make himself throw up at will when he was angry. He walked early, and I remember sitting in the middle of our living room floor, so exhausted that I would fall asleep sitting up while trying to watch him, while he ran circles around me-quite literally-even up until 1:00 in the morning. This from a child who didn't really nap in the daytime. We tried routines, we tried bath, story, cuddles, drink, co-sleeping, toddler bed, big boy bed... we tried everything!
    My second son slept through the night at a younger age, maybe around 2. A tub near bedtime did the trick for him. He did, however have night terrors and was a sleep walker for years so even though HE slept through the night, I most certainly did not. I had to keep getting up to put him back to bed and ended up waking up at the slightest sounds.
    All I can say is you are not alone, even when it seems you are. Patience, and good luck to you.

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    1. I can't imagine 15 minute naps. I rely on that 2-3 hour nap to get me through the rest of the day. In fact I may go have a little cat nap myself!

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  4. You opened the door! LOL Our oldest didn't sleep through the night until he was two. When my husband took me outside the house to let him cry it out. I hated it. Some of my favorite memories are of lying in bed with Javi in the warm summer afternoons to nap with him! I was tired and needed the rest, he was a typical baby needing naps. So warm, sunshine lightly coming in a northern window...he's in university now...you survive the sleepless nights.

    Our second son slept through the night first night home and I sent my husband to check on him, just knowing he was dead in his crib! Sounds weird, but he was okay and I was ever so thankful he loved to go to sleep and sleep in his bed. He has ADD and now can't fall asleep at night easily and will roam the house. Drives me nuts, but I'm learning that if he stays up late, he knows he still has to get up early for school. He's a junior in high school this year...so if you survive the sleepless baby nights, you're well prepared for the next stage of teenaged kids becoming independent!

    Our last son was born with a birthmark in his eye socket and on 1/4 of his face. We used a strong steroid to suppress growth that first year. Well, steroids make you jumpy and hyper. This one only slept an hour or less at a time and ate every hour. I breast fed all my boys, but this one put me over the top! LOL I remember almost setting a microwave on fire using the kitchen timer for oldest son to know how long he had to get ready in the morning...there was a plate of cookies in there. Well, I hit "Start" and burned everything in there to a crisp and filled the house with smoke. I would drive places to drop the other boys off and not remember how I got there. He is now a seventh grader who has learned to sleep in, put himself to bed and will occasionally keep his next to oldest brother company on a late night. LOL

    All I can say is, "It is tough, but you live through it. It might get better for a while, but only for a while and then something new comes along that will ask you to stretch your strength." But it is so worth it! And someday, they'll have kids and come back and apologize for all of these things when they realize just how hard it is!

    God speed!



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    1. Yikes! Thanks for your response! I guess if you can make it through all that than I have it easy. Feels good to read other's stories though for sure!

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